Of Smiles and Sunshine

some people simply drive you mad.

and tonite i'm so frustrated until the argument kept running through my head, flipping here and there as though it's becoming some sort of fried egg... making me more and more pissed off.

some things to start off with...

in a relationship... be it friendship or what nots... it is important to have trust. when u no longer trust what others say, then there's no point in having the relationship isn't it. so when your friends try to tell you something about themselves and you don't believe them, then i guess that's too bad about it. it's either: 1. they are being untruthful, or 2. you are being overly suspicious. and of course you should always clarify with them first. it's unfair to jump to conclusions without letting the parties involved have their say in the matter. so if option 1, they are being untruthful, then good for you, you have uncovered their secret. but what if it's 2? you might end up misunderstanding your friends completely... meaning u might lose your friendship because of this little misunderstanding which u cannot solve by yourself (but might be resolved by all parties involved)

secondly, there is something which i want to clarify. sometimes people are just not in the mood for certain things at certain times... for example, for someone who had just broken up with their lover was still in mourning, and you shouldn't have the cheek to ask him/her to go out with some other people whom they don't even know for a date. especially if they are those rather conservative kind.

and sometimes, certain problems can't be solved just because you say it. it takes more than that.

and as outsiders who are not involved in certain issues, it is hard to grasp the feelings of those in the situation... as such, we should try not to impose our opinion on them because we hardly understand fully how they feel in that situation...

thirdly, there are differences between best friends between 2 pple of the opposite sex and being lovers. perhaps the best friends could have gone to a stage where the communication between them is almost similar to that of lovers, but...
1. (as suggested by randy) lovers have a lot of physical contact, best friends don't.
2. lovers call each other by their pet names... you don't really call your best friends (maybe for girl-girl best friends yes...) by some mushy nicknames.
3. you don't flirt that much with your best friend than your lover.
4. and etc etc. the list goes on.

so get these things clear. i hate to make things black and white like that, but i'm really at my wits end. and when someone tries to explain something to you, try to listen to them till the very end... and if pple who are usually calm and composed all get angry at you suddenly... there should be a good reason y that is so. so maybe you should think about what you said or did that make them so upset.

i'm ready to hear what you have to say, so be ready to hear what i have to say. your opinion may not always be the truth.