Of Smiles and Sunshine

够了。到此为止。












ok highly crappy and "deep" entry coming up... don't say i didn't warn you...













i realised... no matter what i do, no matter when, be it in the past present and probably in the future, i can never win in any kind of argument with guys. i can never get what i want them to do... just take for example today... my brother borrowed my laptop to do something, and moved it from its original position... when i reached home i just told him to put it back for me since he was the one who took and used it, and he should be responsible for putting it back. he ignored me and was concentrating on his game... then i tried to annoy him *ok maybe i asked for it myself*... i tried to poke him at the "soft" spot for most pple... then he reacted by grabbing my hand with force, rubbing my middle finger's joint against the chair... and the result? now my finger joint is swollen... big blue black there... and it hurts like siao... i play volleyball oso wun hurt that much despite all the blue blacks when i first started playing... sighz... and he didn't even say sorry or anything... not that i wanted him to apologise or anything... it just hurts... how guys always ignore what girls have to say just because they think u're not important and stuff...

just like one year ago.

i remember now... everything kept flowing back... the nights when my tears used to help me wash my face... how i tried to talk to someone who kept ignoring me... even a year later, though it is no longer of any importance, the questions still linger in my mind... coming back into picture every now and then... why did this happen? if you didn't mean it, then why did u do so? i guess up till now i still cannot let go...













haha~ nowadays... loads of my friends are attatched all of a sudden! super duper happy for them! pple like my fellow girlfriend shingy... sundoll guy... *his kanojo is my friend's elder sis!!! the world is so so small!* haha dunno y i share their joy in finding their other half! or maybe it's their joy that's spreading to me...

yet... when it comes to myself, i feel nothing. nothing to look forward to anyway. it is nice to have someone u can talk to in depth... someone u know u can trust... someone who will be there when u need him/her... but somehow it doesn't seem likely that it'll happen to me. not that i'm desperately looking for one either.. haha! to a certain extent i think i sound like yuchun! lolx~

what is love? hahaha~ wad a profound question... till now i still couldn't figure out the foolproof answer... all my past definitions on love had been proven wrong through the past 2-3 years... oh this sounds like a scientist trying to prove some hypothesis! unfortunately love... such a "philosophical" and spiritual entity cannot be defined in simply black and white.. there are so many different sides of love... the idealised version of love as shown on tv serials and movies... oh how i love those kind of love... everybody will have a happy ending... everybody will live happily ever after... but how "realistic" are these anyway... even if a couple marries happily... what happens after that? they have kids, husband gets into an affair... couple eventually gets divorced? we are only shown the happy lovey-dovey sides of love... all the pain and hurt one goes through in the process... we view it as a process... where we'll all be happy and live happily ever after after all those suffering we experienced... ok i sound like i'm preaching... this sounds like what my lecturer was saying in my elective... oh well i guess i totally agree with him in this aspect then...

the thing i can't understand is that... y is it that people are willing to sacrifice themselves and expose themselves to all the pain and hurt just for that one single moment of "happiness" or so they call... to me it's just like u spend all your credits for "purchasing" happiness in one go, and for the rest of ur life u'll be poor... in that case i'd rather not be so happy for that one moment and spread out the happiness in my life, that is if i ever have the choice... or if it's possible, maybe i can experience all the pain in one shot, then live happily for the rest of my life. that is bullshit of course. life is not that easy. -_-

i think i've reiterated that point for quite a number of times in my blog already... haha!

love is... countless nights spent waiting for a single sms from the one you kept thinking about... love is about the sleepless nights one have after a fiery quarrel... love is about the times one tries to please the other through gifts, sweet words or some romantic actions...

love is about accepting one for who he/she is... love is about commitment... love is about giving and forgiving... love is about communication...

i think the previous paragraph is enough to scare some people away... the huge words like commitment... i wonder how many people out there are actually willing and ready to commit themselves to a relationship... besides, it is easy to receive, but to give is hard... forgiving others is even harder... communication is extremely important... it is the way how u get to know one another better... but once u understand more about one.... the positive and negative traits of that person... are you able to still love him/her for who he/she is? it is easy to say that u do... but when that actually happens to you, will you be able to keep to the thing u've said?

i guess perhaps my ideas on love is simply too naive and idealistic... it is not something that will exist in real life... i once thought true love is everlasting... but then again, i guess not... perhaps... love... is like some kind of canned food... there's an expiry date... once it expires, it's no longer love... for a couple together, once beyond the expiry date, they might break up or still stay together just because they feel guilty if they suggested the breakup. then in this whole case... what is the point of coming together to start a relationship if in the very end it'll end in a breakup? of course, there are ways of extending the expiry date... and i can safely assume... not a lot of couples can achieve that...

and so to end off... i hope that all existing couples out there and those couples-to-be... to slowly discover the ways of maintaining a relationship and to treasure each other... it is not easy to find one another in such a huge world with a few billion pple of totally different personalities... let me see more happy endings and maybe, i'll change my perception on love and become slightly more optimistic... =)

cheers to pansy, huang weixiang, shingy n sundoll guy! *plus all other couples i know out there =)*